Monday, July 28, 2014

BDSMonday - Primal Play



It's BDSMonday!

(For me, it's actually still Sunday, but I work all day tomorrow so I'm queueing this post...shhh!)

Today's topic is a new one for me; thanks, Google!

I was looking for potential future topics, and primal play caught my eye. I'd never heard the term before, but it makes sense to me, and it seems like a term that applies to me and my Sir. Some of my favourite scenes have been very hands-on and physical, with lots of tumbling and wrestling and laughing. Both my Sir and I know who's going to win--she's much larger than me, and I find it more fun to lose. I love being having my hair pulled, being wildly bitten and scratched and pinned down, and there don't need to be words. 

To me, primal play is different than pet/animal play. Pet play is a much more direct and obvious animal/human dynamic--(most of the time) the human is in charge, doing what the human wants. Primal play is a subtler form of power play, and I think it's a great way to explore a relationship. 

Does primal play resonate for you, too? Have you all heard the term and I've just been living under a rock? 



Vanilla Corner: Have you read a primal play scene? Is that something you would be interested in reading about? (Or, of course, trying :D)


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If you have a topic to suggest for BDSMonday, or if you would like to do a guest post, please

Coming This Week...

Coming This Week...
Designated Bottoms
by BA Tortuga, Sean Michael, Julia Talbot, Kiernan Kelly, Shannon West, KC Wells, Katey Hawthorne
Some men are bottoms by birth, others by choice. Whatever the reason, a designated bottom is someone who’s happy to surrender, to submit, or just catch instead of pitch!
Haven
by Lee Benoit
Haven is a former Vietnam Army medic working as an ER nurse in Boston when he meets and falls for Tadeo, an Argentine dancer stranded Stateside with a brand-new baby. Evil forces mass on all sides of the pair as they try, with a colorful supporting cast, to figure out how to be together and stay safe.
Genre: Historical, Drama

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Emerald Keep Is Coming!


It's official!  It's official!  Emerald Keep is now under contract.  Or, should I say, Contract.  (Sorry, inside joke.  You'll have to read Emerald Fire to get that one. ~ebil grin~

Here's a teaser:

When Emerald Keeper Teeka returns to the city of Reghdad and leaves the harsh desert behind, he finds that not all dangers come from the Great Valley. The dangerous Daymonth is nearly upon them and no one can survive on the surface of the planet – but Senior Hunter Quill Mayer is trying to get to Reghdad, and Teeka, before the start of it. Even if he makes it, Emerald Keep denies Teeka’s Contract with Senior Hunter Quill, and Teeka discovers his enemy is more powerful than any of them suspected and he will stop at nothing to separate Teeka and Quill – even by striking in the very heart of the city.

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“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”
- E.E. Cummings

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Wednesday, July 23, 2014

New Releases

This week we have selected titles from Mychael Black, Missouri Dalton, Jon Keys, Nicole McCormick, Julia Talbot, and BA Tortuga on sale for 20% off! Check 'em out here: http://www.torquerebooks.com/index.php?main_page=specials

Rode Hard Anthology
edited by Elizabeth L. Brooks with stories by BA Tortuga, Julia Talbot, Yolande Kleinn, Nicole McCormick, Mychael Black, Jon Keys, Missouri Dalton and Penn E. Loaffer
172 pages / 39400 words
ISBN: 978-1-61040-781-6
$4.99
Buy Link: http://www.torquerebooks.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=96&products_id=4224
Blurb:
It's time to ride hard for cattle country! In "Where the Men are Men" by Julia Talbot, Skeet's not the brightest guy around, but he still manages to surprise Donnie. In "Sage and Sand" by Yolande Kleinn, when Bram Caldwell's stage route is attacked by bandits, his only hope lies with vigilante Marshall Maddox. In "Devilry Done" by Missouri Dalton, Luke's out to get Ambrose back, but he might just get himself killed in the process. Birch is a champion bull rider who wants to try some of his moves out with bull fighter Lucas in "Eight Seconds" by Nicole McCormick.
In BA Tortuga's "Hoping for a Good Break," Colby left his man, Alan, with harsh words that are made unbearable by the misfortune of a riding mishap. "Asher, James, Glenn, and Gregg" by Penn E. Loaffer introduces us to four SoCal friends: a transplanted Colorado cowboy, two San Diego natives, and a Brit who proves that not all English are "proper." In "Showstring" by Jon Keys, two men with wildly different backgrounds meet at the state fair, but is Jayden's baggage going to spoil everything? In "Come Undone" by Mychael Black, Bryce Caldwell's first impression of Ricky Clements is a whirlwind in black.
Individual Stories:
Hoping for a Good Break by BA Tortuga
Where the Men are Men by Julia Talbot
Sage and Sand by Yolande Kleinn
Eight Seconds by Nicole McCormick
Come Undone by Mychael Black
Showstring by Jon Keys
Devilry Done by Missouri Dalton
Asher, James, Glenn, and Gregg by Penn E. Loaffer

An Auspicious Moon
by Julia Talbot
89 pages / 24600 words
ISBN: 978-1-61040-782-3
$3.99
Buy Link: http://www.torquerebooks.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=96&products_id=4225
Blurb:
From cat shifter to werewolves, An Auspicious Moon collects seven short stories about the animal inside. Sit up and Beg and Sit Pretty features Killian and Evan, the werewolf and the man who saved him from captivity. In Chew Toy, CIA agent Jack thinks being eaten by a tiger is a bad way to go. Good thing the tiger is also a man. Crate Trained sees Gary getting a bite he never expected during casual sex. In Doggie Style, Ray thinks Doc is just a new foster pet. He’s in for a shock. Finally, in Wolfy Resolutions, Cage has no desire to go to his demon friend’s party, but it might be worth his while.
All stories previously published in Torquere Press’ Sip line.
Coming Next Week...

Designated Bottoms
by BA Tortuga, Sean Michael, Julia Talbot, Kiernan Kelly, Shannon West, KC Wells, Katey Hawthorne
Some men are bottoms by birth, others by choice. Whatever the reason, a designated bottom is someone who’s happy to surrender, to submit, or just catch instead of pitch!
Haven
by Lee Benoit
Haven is a former Vietnam Army medic working as an ER nurse in Boston when he meets and falls for Tadeo, an Argentine dancer stranded Stateside with a brand-new baby. Evil forces mass on all sides of the pair as they try, with a colorful supporting cast, to figure out how to be together and stay safe.
Genre: Historical, Drama

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

On sale this week...

This week we have selected titles from Mychael Black, Missouri Dalton, Jon Keys, Nicole McCormick, Julia Talbot, and BA Tortuga on sale for 20% off! Check 'em out here: http://www.torquerebooks.com/index.php?main_page=specials

Monday, July 21, 2014

BDSMonday - Negotiation



It's BDSMonday!

Today's topic is negotiation.

Okay--you've found someone you want to play with. Now what?

I know I've mentioned them before, but I can't recommend BDSM checklists highly enough. They're a great way to quickly and easily compare your kinks with your potential playpartner(s)'. (I also recommend them for keeping track of your own BDSM journey. I'm always surprised, when I look back at old ones, how many things I marked as "No" or "Not interested" are now some of my favourites!)

Ask questions. Lots of 'em. It doesn't matter if you plan on topping or bottoming, you want to know as much about your partner as possible. There are many factors that aren't directly related to BDSM that might influence a scene--has your partner been through a traumatic experience that could be triggered by something that might routinely happen as part of a scene? Do they have any old injuries that could be affected? Are there certain spots on their body they don't like to be touched?

Set your safeword(s). The 'default' ones are red, yellow, and green. Green means everything's okay, keep going. Yellow means pause, and red means STOP. You can decide on your own, either for all your BDSM needs, or for the specific partner you're negotiating with. It's a good idea to make it a word that stands out and you're not likely to use during a scene (mine is 'squirrel'.) There are alternatives to spoken safewords, but that's a whole other topic!

There's also nothing wrong with negotiating once you've started a scene. You may have decided you're going to do spanking and bondage, but halfway through one of you might decide you want to add caning, as well. Pause the scene, and ask your partner(s) if it's okay to add an activity. If it is, off you go! If not, you can discuss it later, and maybe try it during another play session.

You can also make the scene shorter. Maybe you really don't feel like wax play after your spanking. Let your partner know. You can always try it another time!






I decided it was high time for the Vanilla Corner to have its own graphic, so...ta da!

Today's Vanilla Corner question: When reading BDSM fiction, do you like the author to include a negotiation scene? How much detail do you like to see?

(Because my little safety hat is always within arms' reach, I like to at least mention that negotiation happened, but I also think writing too much detail could get a little boring for readers.)

Any negotiation questions or tips you'd like to add?

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If you have an idea for BDSMonday, please feel free to message me, or email: tq.strange (at) gmail.com

I'd love to hear from you!

Coming This Week...

Coming This Week...

Rode Hard
edited by Elizabeth L. Brooks
The smell of horse and fresh-mown hay. The cheers of a rodeo crowd and the creak of harness. A gleam of steel and sun-baked skin. It's time to ride hard for cattle country.

Individual Stories:
Hoping for a Good Break by B.A. Tortuga
Where the Men are Men by Julia Talbot
Sage and Sand by Yolande Kleinn
Eight Seconds by Nicole McCormick
Come Undone by Mychael Black
Showstring by Jon Keys
Devilry Done by Missouri Dalton
Asher, James, Glenn, and Gregg by Penn E. Loaffer

Genre: Western, Contemporary, Historical

Talbot Shorts
by Julia Talbot